my boys build

[gottagetacheaperhobby]

well final parts should be here now BUT the young fella has had such a attitude lately i dont no whether i can hand the bike over to him.... im stuffed if i no what to do i started this build with him to try and give him a incentive to pull his head in but no it continues grrr god damn boys

 

[Blender]

haha, i had the same prblem with my old man at the start of my build, he was going to help me with a few things, but i was saying "no u dont do it like that" , pretending i knew it all.....i feel stupid and crap a bout it all now..
you should finish the build, just dont let him ride it-or any bike, and let him know that there are boundaries that he cant cross. he'll see how good that bike looks and he'll want to ride it, so theres your bargaining chip let him ride it after he proves to you that he can be responsible and stop his attitude "phase". just a thought

 

[my67xr]

glad i'm not the only parent that cops it from the kids.


it's ok though,
because then i get to take the Buggy or PW50 out, instead of the kids.
i go out and have a decent ride/drive on the Buggy/PW, then come back to the house or wherever after an hour or so.

then the apologies come....
followed shortly after by " dad is it ok if i go for a ride/drive now please ? "

it is worth it, just to see the grins from ear to ear to know they appreciate it.

 

[gottagetacheaperhobby]

yeah cheers guys, its hard because neither of them are my biological children and callum being the eldest resents me a bit. ive been with my partner for 4 years now and tried my hardest with both of them but callum just pushes and pushes were as jayden is completely different. i have decided he has the next month to change his attitude or the bike sits in the shed till he deserves it ( his birthday is next month). the biggest problem i have is he tells me everything will change but it never does so this is his final chance...

 

[Blender]

damn dude, this is really crap...just because your "related" doesnt mean you dont have the authority to tell him what to do. your are his elder, and he should respect that alone! your doing a really good thing for him, i mean seriously, you've spent 1500 bucks on what is really HIS present, even if your not his old man, if someone did that for me i'd be goin bonkers! You dont deserve this from him and you should make that very clear to him.
BTW i babysit a 6 yo, who is one smart cookie with an attitude and when his mother punishes him, he just pulls the "victim" card, and says he'll stop behaving so badly, and that gets his mom all hopeful ,so she lets him off with a slap on the wrist...You just gotta maintain your ground, dont back down, once he realises thats how its gonna be, he'll soon clean up his act, he just needs firm boundaries and a clear understanding of what is right and wrong.
This is just my opinion dude, ultimately its your shop, u know how it runs best, dont take this as a stab at u, just friendly advice.

 

[gottagetacheaperhobby]

yeah man i get that, and thats exactly how i do operate with him the problem being he just doesnt care. ive taken everything off him, kicked him up the arse, grounded him tried basically everything but he plays along till his punishment is up and then it all goes back to the same old ****

 

[gottagetacheaperhobby]

finally finished the bike today and took it for a spin, its actually not bad to ride even with my weight on it. i think ive got a air leak in the manifold adapter tho as it doesnt want to idle properly and runs better with the choke on so il fix that and it will be finished will post some pics shortly

 

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[ricky_191]

wow it looks so nice Well done mate. I wish I had a good dad growing up, it really makes a difference. How old is he ? Kids defiantly need boundaries.

 

[gottagetacheaperhobby]

he is 10yrs old, and cheers i got to wash it now.....

 

[ricky_191]

Yeah it's a difficult age. Try to set punishments. Pick the worst two things that he does like talk back ect and then set penalties for it before it happens so that he knows that he's going to be in trouble if he does it.. But both parents must be on the same page and have the same rules. Other wise he won't have a clear idea of the rules or he can play one parent off the other.

Also try not to argue with him. You are the parent so you make the rules. I know it sounds harsh but if he is arguing and fighting and you do the same. You're just fueling the fire. Try to send him to a naughty corner and just enforce what you say.

I'm not a parent though. It is hard when you're not there biological father and they use that whole " you're not my real dad " bull **** ect. Just try to stay strong

It sounds like your on the whole path with the motor bike. Maybe set him little jobs so that he has his own independence so that he feels like he can do things buy him self and get that sense of achievement.

That bike is looking so good to the colours are so good together

 

[gottagetacheaperhobby]

thanks for the advice mate these are all things im doing atm but its good to hear im on the right track with him. just hope it all works

 

[ricky_191]

yeah. Hope it works out for you.

 

[Blender]

Wowow!!
Dude that thing looks awesome! you really did a great job, it looks sooo "cool"!! lol. the blue anodizing looks perfect, and the orange blends in well!

Now all you have to do is enter it in FOTM

 

[timeeh]

Really nice work mate, well done. As for the Kid, i like Craigs advice best, you ride the bike until he's behaviour changes... if it never does, the bikes all yours, or just wait for the younger lad to get a few more years under the belt and give it to him

 

[gottagetacheaperhobby]

yeah il have to wait till next year for fotm but il chuck her in then
thats basically what im doin it will be for my missus to learn to ride and me to dang around until my bike is done.
then its gonna go to jayden if callum dont improve. thanks for the kind words fellas glad you guys like the look of the bike to, turned out pretty nice to ride as well

 

[my67xr]

+ reps on this build, great work mate

and as for your 10yo, all you can do for the time being is grin and bear it, eventually things will get better i'm sure.
i can sympithise with you, my eldest (13yo now) is from my wifes' ex partner too.
the wife and i have been together for 9 years now, the lad was 4yo when we met.
so he didn't really have much to do with his biological father, wife split with him just after she gave birth.
lad hasn't heard from his dad for a couple of years now...

as hard as it may seem, you just have to be there for them when they need you.
try and support what he does, and give them plenty of praise etc
one day soon he will realise how good you have been for him, and start wanting your opinions more.

if you need/want to pm me at any time, feel free to do so,
sometimes we just need to tell someone about it to help clear out our heads.


and yeah, get a video up of you on this bike too, maybe ask your 10yo if he can do you a favour, and film it for you ?


cheers, craig

 

[gottagetacheaperhobby]

thanks craig your a champ, sometimes its real hard to keep it all in perspective but you and the other guys have been a huge help il get onto a vid shortly only prob is we only have the mobile so it wont be great quality.
thanks for the offer to talk privately il no doubt take you up on that as you a 100% correct that it helps to talk about it

 

[my67xr]

no probs,

all of my videos have been off my phones, Galaxy S2 and Galaxy S3.
the latter phone is getting a bit blurry now though.
i will get a Galaxy S4 in November hopefully,
and i should have worked out my $8 MD80, mini helmet cam by then, since i have a better quality Micro SD card now.